Most people describe their ex.
What we hear when we ask someone what they want, and what we do with it.
Ask someone what they want in a partner and the first answer is usually a list of everything the last one was not. Kind, because the ex was cold. Ambitious, because the ex was stuck. It is a fair answer. It is also a description of a person who is no longer in the room.
So we ask a second question an hour later: tell us about a night you did not want to end. The answers change. People stop listing and start telling. A kitchen at 2 a.m. A long drive with no music. Someone who laughed at the wrong moment.
That second answer is the one we write down. It does not fit in a form, which is why a person has to hear it.